AN EVOLVING
VOICE
3 IMPORTANT STEPS TO HELP YOU
ACHIEVE AN EVOLVING VOICE
They are simple but not easy. Read and reread them thoroughly. Each time, you may see it slightly differently depending on the situation.
Try them on someone you already know. Maybe someone you see frequently but have communication difficulties, like a family member or co-worker.
Start a journal where you practice a step and then note what reactions you received. They take practice and may not always work the first time but don’t give up but you will be surprised at how they can change your life.
Keep these 3 basic concepts in your mental toolbox everywhere you go. Remind yourself daily of at least 1 tool you will focus on for that day.
TELL YOUR LIZARD BRAIN TO SHUT UP - SETH GODIN
TELL YOUR LIZARD BRAIN TO SHUT UP - SETH GODIN
LEVEL UP
TRAIN YOUR LIZARD BRAIN
It is not always easy to use an Evolving Voice all the time. A basic understanding of how your brain works in certain situations can help clarify why somtimes it is hard to speak with love.
During the early days of humans, our brain prioritized the amygdala, what we also call the lizard brain. When it thinks, we are in a lifethreatening situation, it automatically prepares you to FIGHT or FLIGHT to survive. Our hearts beat faster and we are pumped up with adrenaliine and cortisol. But nowadays even if we are not in a life threatening situation,. the lizard brain can still be easily stimulated. When we say someone “pushes my buttons”, we are talking about our lizard brain in action.
Leveling up means realizing when it is not a life or death situation and deciding not to automatically let your lizard brain put you in fight/flight mode. Move your thoughts to the higher level of your brain, the neocortes which allows creativity, problem solving, and understanding.
During the early days of humans, our brain prioritized the amygdala, what we also call the lizard brain. When it thinks, we are in a lifethreatening situation, it automatically prepares you to FIGHT or FLIGHT to survive. Our hearts beat faster and we are pumped up with adrenaliine and cortisol. But nowadays even if we are not in a life threatening situation,. the lizard brain can still be easily stimulated. When we say someone “pushes my buttons”, we are talking about our lizard brain in action.
Leveling up means realizing when it is not a life or death situation and deciding not to automatically let your lizard brain put you in fight/flight mode. Move your thoughts to the higher level of your brain, the neocortes which allows creativity, problem solving, and understanding.
CURIOSITY IS ONE OF THE PERMANENT AND CERTAIN CHARACTERISTICS OF A VIGOROUS INTELLECT - SAMUEL JOHNSON
CURIOSITY IS ONE OF THE PERMANENT AND CERTAIN CHARACTERISTICS OF A VIGOROUS INTELLECT - SAMUEL JOHNSON
LIVE CURIOUS
EXPAND YOUR WORLDVIEW
As humans, we have a lot in common. We all have basic needs of safety, understanding,. love, and respect. But we also seek out the fmailiar and often surround ourselves with people that like or believe in the same things wedo. This can make it harder to interact or engage with people you don’t agree with.
When this happens, identify that the person you are communicating with has the same basic needs as you. Dive into the adventure of really geeting to know someone else and why they think or act a certain way. You don’t have to agree with them completely. You only want to understand why they feel the way they do. Ask questions and dig deeper. If you are not judgmental, others will likely be open to sharing more with you. You my even see how everyone’s actions are alwaysto fill a universal need and you can usually find some similarities and situations where you agree.